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Samridhi Ranjan's avatar

there’s something so haunting about how you’ve captured the kind of pain that doesn’t scream. I don’t even know what to say except that this felt like being seen and gutted and held all at once.

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gor's avatar

ah, i am so sorry. i hope we heal from the the unsaid burdens we carry, i am still hopeful.

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Unnati's avatar

i believe its a hundred times more difficult to live with a grief like this than to live and grieve the dead

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Jyoti Ansari's avatar

This is so soul touching.. so much similar to what I m going through.. Grieving someone who is still alive is heart wrenching…

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MED's avatar

Grieving the living has a way of suffocating the life out of living and you captured it so well. Every complexity and simplicity.

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jojo's avatar

shook me right to the core. i’m currently going through this, sincerely hoping one day she’ll realise that we are still worth trying. devastating to know that she’s out there enjoying life, and possibly letting another man experience the very things we once done together…

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hannah's avatar

Currently sobbing violently rn

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gor's avatar

i am so sorry 😭

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Aaron's avatar

Beautifully written, as always ❤️

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WiseWomanWickedTongue's avatar

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I lost my mom last year and there are moments that are seared into my brain like a scar. I wouldn't want it any other way. I think grief is a way of honoring those lost to us.

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Andrea's avatar

My heart… I bow.

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MVD's avatar

you published this in the right time wow😭 sobbing rnnnb

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gor's avatar

so sorryyy 😭😭

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Heartspur's avatar

Hate that their face is so vivid in my head while I read this— and I sob, cruelly.

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gor's avatar

ahhh, i told you, i am sorry sorry 😞

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Hannah Larson's avatar

THIS ESSAY IS INSANE (insane in a good way) WOW THANK YOU. Insane. You took the words right out of my mouth - and I write about grieving the living, a lot. Thank you for seeing me! 💖

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avani's avatar

i pinched myself while reading this and thought "no its just really good writing I can't relate" but the tears eventually came and the anxiety kicked in because all my hope was in time making this process easier, to forget them. But the (beautiful) and extremely sad way you said thats not the case made me anxious. Very very anxious. God I hope it gets better I really do😭

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Kyara Selina's avatar

This really hit home, like a punch in the chest. Even shed some tears as I imagined my former best (girl) friend and how we’re practically strangers now. This is beautifully and hauntingly written, thank you for sharing!

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shelly's avatar

the way you write is actually insane. oh my god.

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